Whether we like it or not, much of our self-worth is rooted in how others feel or think about us. If we belong to no one, we begin to feel we are worthless. Because of this we will do almost anything to belong to someone or to belong to something.
We live in a world of users where we abuse each other to dull the pain of our aloneness.
There's something deeper going on inside us that we're tryin to ignore, even drown out. We are alone, disconnected, and deficient in love. Deep down inside we know we cannot fill the vacuum within our souls by consuming people.
Love is not about how many people we have used, but about how much we have cherised one person.
I've come to find over time that players are the ones who are most afraid. They are afraid to love, and so they make it a game. They're terrified of loving deeply, and so the keep everything superficial. I think deep inside they wonder whether any woman could actually love them if she really knew who he was.
If you really believed you were capable of loving deeply and profoundly, what in the world would keep you from it? Is it that your heart so longs for love and longs to love, but you've settled for so much less?
-Erwin Mcmanus "Soul Cravings"
